Betrayal according to Wikipedia is the "breaking or violation of a presumptive contact, trust or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations."
As humans when we are betrayed by that one person that we trusted, loved, cared for and kept close to our hearts, it causes a kind of pain that is not easily healed.
We tend to feel useless for allowing that person get that close. It brings down our self-esteem and we wonder how we could not read the signs or know the person was capable of such an act.
There are particular ways to handle such betrayal if we intend to recover from it.
GET AWAY FROM THE PERSON
The first step is distance. You need to distance yourself from the person that has caused you the pain. Constantly seeing and talking to the person would only remind you of the betrayal and would not heal you.
UNDERSTAND IT TAKES TIME TO HEAL
I would not come here and tell you that you would get over the hurt quickly or in a few days because that won’t happen trust me. It would take time. Sometimes months and during that time, oh, it would hurt so badly. But this is where you need to understand that it is going to take time.
EXPRESS YOUR EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS
Keeping how you feel inside would not help anything. You would need to express your feelings. If you need to cry out your emotions do it. Write down your feelings if you have to.
TALK TO SOMEONE YOU TRUST
Go ahead and talk to someone you trust. Talk to someone that would certainly listen to you.
GET A LIFE
Yes, I said it! Get a life. Sitting around doing nothing and just thinking about what you are going through would not help in anyway. All it would do is cause you to grief more. Go out with friends, focus on your job or get a new hobby. These things would keep you busy and leave you with little time to think about the pain.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Understand that you matter the most. So make sure you take care of yourself.
Okay lets be very honest here. As women we
generally feel insecured sometimes. We wonder what he does when he is not with us, if
he is seeing someone else or if he feels the same way that we do. Before anything, lets establish that every guy is different in their own way. But however, we cant
ignore some signs that become evident in the relationship when he is cheating.
1.
The
sex just reduces.
All
of a sudden for no reason, the sex just reduces. He doesn’t initiate the sex
anymore and you find yourself being the one asking for it all the time.
2.
The
romance is not there anymore
He
used to text you randomly, get you food randomly, kiss and touch you more,
initiate to spend time with you but now he has stopped. He doesn’t even try to
kiss you. He is too busy to text you and starts cancelling the plans you guys
have made.
3.
Over
protective of his phone
You
were able to check who was calling him before but now when his phone rings he
rushes to get it before you can even get close to it. Or he doesn’t let his phone
ring anymore around you and is always carrying his phone where ever he goes. If
he takes his phone to the washroom, my dear watch out.
4.
Everything
you say and do annoys him.
All the weird funny things you used to say and
do that got him laughing and calling you crazy now pisses him the hell off. He
gets turned off by those same things now.
5.
He
has no time for you
He doesn’t have time for you now. He is working more, staying out late and has
something on his schedule all the time.
6.
Your
instincts
Your
gut tells you there is something wrong. Do not ignore your gut and instincts.
Your gut has proved you right many times. Trust it.
Well, if you
havent gotten the news yet, or you have not tried to engage in this app, let me
make it known to you that jodel is now called the "buzz on your campus"
. An online app that shows you whats happening in your area in real-time.
Jodel has made
people free to type exactly what is on their minds without caring at all.
Indeed it has been
a way of expressing emotions and feelings recently.
We have the
heart-broken girls,
The depressed
Those stuck in the
friend zone,
The jealous ones,
The future
planners
The "lyrical
algebar",
Those searching
for their life partners
The thirsty
The lovers of God
The etremely
lonely
The confused
And of course, the
sexual ladies
The question
remains. Would people have been able to say all this if their names were to be
attached? Well, guess the invention of jodel has really saved the tertiary
students.
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